Florida State University Project Relate
Florida State University (FSU) is an internationally recognized teaching and research institution committed to preparing its graduates for the ever-expanding opportunities of a global society. Located in the Florida capital of Tallahassee, FSU hosts a total of 41,000 students representing all 50 states and 129 countries.
Project Relate targets young adults in college, a key demographic group for future marriage, using premarital education and marriage skills training. The overarching goal of the project is to strengthen and support marriage by giving young adults the skills and knowledge to make informed decisions about healthy relationships.
I had a wonderful experience while taking this course. When I first read the course outline, I assumed much of the content would be old news to me, but I was wrong. Delving into the many challenges that relationships present was so much more informative than anything I had heard before. In this class, we were taught structured techniques versus the general rules regarding communication. We always hear that communication is key and that in all relationships (whether with family, friends, or romantic partners) you must have open lines of communication. This statement is easier said than done, especially when emotions get involved.
My boyfriend and I got married in August of 2008, and when we are struggling with a decision, we use the “speaker-listener” technique we learned in class. The instructor taught the technique very well and showed us that it works as long as we are committed to doing it properly. She showed us plenty of situations with videos as well as through class skits. She applied the technique to all relationships in our lives, even those we have with roommates. The class as a whole was great and taught me many things, but this technique stood out because it applied to a situation I was dealing with at the time. My husband thought I was crazy back then, but now even he likes the technique. Now I need a technique to get him to stop leaving his socks all over the house!
I LOVED the class and LOVED our breakout sessions. From what I learned over the semester, I now take a much less confrontational approach to disagreements and issues that may arise in my life. I never really felt that the class had much of an impact on me, but now that I have been given this chance to reflect on the past month since the end of the class, I realize that even though I may not explicitly try to implement “time-outs” or “giving the floor,” these and all of the rest of the techniques that were taught seem to have subconsciously taken root and help me in various situations. So many people use a multitude of clichés such as “walk a mile in their shoes,” but in this class I was able to gain more insights into the spheres of others, the way they act in situations, and the way I may react to their situations. This ultimately helps me be a better person, whether it be in a friendship or a romantic relationship.